Now, if that’s not a Pinterest worthy photo, I’m not sure what is. A chunky southern boy, looking a little moody in a grove, on a pile of vintage suitcases, in smocked bubble, knee socks, and L’Amour shoes. To be honest, most of the time when we leave the house in the morning, my son is dressed Pinterest perfect…….but that’s about as far as it goes.
I’m writing a Mommy Blog, but I’m choosing a photo of from one of my wedding receptions (yes, I said receptions…as is multiple…I’m sure I’ll cover that eventually) the first photo in the about me. It just feels right. First, I believe my marriage is most important. Second while I love the little boy we’ve created, if we do things right, one day Charley will have long and strong wings that will take him to places we can only imagine. As much as I love being a mother to Charley, being a wife to Blake will always be my first calling. Blake and I’ve been married two years, now and while it has been ridiculously difficult, my worst day as his wife always beats my best single days.
The truth is, I wasn’t a wife very long before I became a mama (but I DEFINITELY was a wife before I was a Mama, if you know what I mean). Just 10 months and 8 days after we were husband and wife, we were mom and dad to a beautiful baby boy (I was totally expecting to have an ugly baby and be the first mama in the history of the world to be honest that my baby was ugly — because most babies are, but man we go lucky). I’ve been doing the mama thing just over a year now. While I’m not perfect at it, I love and it and 99% of the time I’m pretty darn amazing. It’s what I was meant to do and it comes naturally. I treat it like a job — I participate in continuing education, surround myself with people who are smarter than I am, and make adjustments to do better almost daily.
Before I was a wife or a mother, I was a minister — mostly an interim minister in Presbyterian Churches (USA). I still am a minister, just not serving a church right now. It’s funny, when I was single and serving in churches, I fought hard to be known as more than “minister.” However, since becoming a wife and mother, I find that is a role I own with great ease.
I currently live out my call in several ways, working part-time for a mission organization, supporting a charter school, and consulting with non-profits that are working to make Charlotte a better place for all.
A few other things about me. Community is super important to me. I am so blessed with amazing community near and far. I love to sign karaoke. Cooking amazing tailgates is my spiritual gift. I was kind of a nomad most of my adult life, until I landed in Charlotte. I say, “I fell in love with Charlotte and then I fell in love with the Charlottean, so I’m now here for life.” I left part of my heart in Haiti in 2014 and I visit is as often as I can, although not as much as I did before Charley came along. I believe in the goodness of people, but I love a bit of trashy Reality TV too. I believe in giving to my community and world. I’m just a little bit of a hot mess and my house is never really clean, except for the first 2 minutes after my cleaning lady leaves — seriously come see me Friday at 7:32 after my cleaning lady leaves and you won’t know she was ever there.